Thursday, May 28, 2009

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So to all my friends and family out there I have a question that I want an honest answer...So here it is What makes me scary or intimidating? Am I hard to talk too? Do I make people nervous? What is about me that puts people off? So feel free tell me what you think, I would like to know so that I can have less misunderstandings in the future.

7 comments:

Wendy said...

Well being the bold person I am and knowing you as being bold yourself I think that might be intimidating to others, at least that is what I have been told by other people, that I am to bold or abrupt or honest I guess you can say. Maybe you only are like that with me... I don't know. For me it works great since I am that way too, but like I said... some people like it better when you tip toe around them and hide most of the honesty. So maybe people just can't handle the open honest well intentioned truth. I don't know... am I going off in a ramble here? Anyways the point I am trying to make....I think you are great!

AJ said...

I can't speak for anyone else, but I love you just the way you are! I love people who talk and are honest--people I don't have to entertain and guess about.

One thing I've learned in the last few years is that so many times the way people see us has nothing to do with us, but everything to do with themselves. The way we see things are colored by our own experiences. If someone is having a hard time with you, it very likely is because of their perception of you, and not because of who you are. I hope that makes sense.

Debbie Murdock said...

That's a whole can of worms...well I'll give my two cents. In the time that I was in Boise you were always honest and bold. I think sometimes when people are confident it makes other people back down for some reason or uncomfortable if that makes sense. I think it all has to do with the same lines as Ann said about those people being comfortable in their own skin. I never felt that way around you. Like I said sometimes people feel uncomfortable around confident people...I always get that. People are afraid to approach me because of the way I carry myself and they think I'm a snob. But if you get to know me you know that's far from the truth. Good luck with figuring out this one!

Heavenly said...

Have a bad experience did you? Don't let it get you down...OK?

As for your question...meh. I remember when we first met I noticed that you weren't afraid to express yourself. ;D It wasn't off putting, but it certainly took me aback a few times. LOL Once I got to know you better it didn't even register anymore (well...mostly. tee hee!).

Wiggles said...

No problem here. I always enjoyed our time together when you lived here in NH. Don't worry there are lots of us our here who love you just the way you are. Bold, intellegence and beautiful.

Chris said...

Well this is my attempt at answering your question. What is it about you that puts people off? Well I can only speak for myself. The times when you frustrate me I think of the analogy of 'bull in a china closet'. I'm not sure what it is, others have said strong personality. It just seems like to me, there are times when you act, do, or say things without really giving any thought to how it might impact or affect others around you, or how others might feel about it. Along with it, you have a very controlling personality. You always seem to want to come in and take control of the environment you are in. And maybe that is more the driving force. Such that as you try to take control, for your own sanity and comfort's sake, you don't realize the toes you might be stepping on as you do. With all that said, you're a good person and not 'scary' as you said. You are a hard worker and caring. And when you're trying to take control of a situation it is most always with good intentions. Even when our toes are aching, we still love you.

Cindi said...

My first reaction when I read this is, "Who the heckle is writing this?!!!" I have never found you intimidating or difficult to be around. I find your honesty refreshing, and I appreciate always knowing exactly what you think. You are genuine and honest and about as lovable as someone can get...you have a heart of gold and are so thoughtful...my guess is someone is unsure of themselves, and cannot express it to you in a situation, so they might take offense. Not me!!!